As a recovering perfectionist and people-pleaser, I know firsthand how difficult it can be for women to ask for help and prioritize taking care of themselves. Most women have been told that they can do it all – and they do – but it comes at a high cost. By always putting everyone else’s needs before your own and striving to make sure things are done right, it is extremely hard for women to let go of the urge to control everything in their lives.

 

It makes sense that you want to make sure things are done right and nothing falls through the cracks, but the mental and emotional load of being responsible for everyone and everything all the time is exhausting. What if you could learn to let go of needing to be in charge all the time and be less concerned about what other people think, while still accomplishing everything on your to-do list? And instead of feeling depleted and overwhelmed at the end of the day, feel confident, content and calm?

 

It can be hard for women to say “no”, for fear of disappointing others or being seen as someone who can’t handle taking on more. And once your plate is full, it can be difficult to let go of commitments that no longer serve you, especially those that initially brought you joy. One of my greatest joys in life is my dog. I started training her in agility when she was still a puppy. For many years we trained together and had a blast, but as the years passed, I found myself dreading taking her to class. One day I finally realized that the reason I hadn’t stopped going was because I was afraid of disappointing her agility instructor and letting my dog down. When I finally got up the courage to tell her agility instructor that we were taking a break, I felt relieved. And I think my dog did, too; dogs can sense our moods and they know if we are unhappy!

 

Perhaps you can relate: where in your life are you holding onto something (a commitment, relationship, job, etc.) that no longer serves you? What is it costing you to stay stuck in that situation? What would it feel like if you were able to say “no” and let go?

 

Learning how to take care of myself first (so that I can take care of others) and being able to say “no” has been life-changing for me. I want to help other women experience the freedom and relief that comes from saying “yes” to yourself and “no” to things that are weighing you down. When you are clear on your own needs, values, and goals, it becomes easier to say “no” with confidence up front.

 

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